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Posted on: 2018-07-20

Good Values and Manners

Proper values and good manners are a good thing to have, but please don’t expect everyone to be able to abide by them. In some cases, adhering to good manners can even be a bad thing. Sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it?

Case 1: The Emergency

It’s good to teach a child not to interrupt others who are speaking, but what if they find an emergency situation? In such a case, I for one would want the child to use intelligent disobedience and consider reporting the emergency much more important than showing good manners.

Case 2: Faithfulness

Unfaithfulness to one’s spouse is generally frowned upon, but isn’t unfaithfulness to one’s true feelings much worse? Also, if someone is being unfaithful, whereas they normally respect good values, then doesn’t it follow that something must be wrong?

Understand Before you Judge

So, before you sound your disapproval of behavior you do not agree with, please try to understand that there may be a valid reason for it. This ties back to this post in which I professed the need to solve a problem by addressing its root cause.

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